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Couples Bondage For Beginners

Sex with your partner is great, it's exciting and you always get your thrills, but lately, you’ve been dreaming up some scenarios in your head that aren’t exactly PC. Your imagination is starting to go wild with kinky thoughts and now you’re left dreaming of more, but you don’t need to dream. Talking to your partner about introducing bondage shouldn’t be something to delay, it is important that you’re both leaving the bedroom satisfied; today we are going to talk about how you can introduce bondage into your sex lives.

The Talk
First things first, you need to be having a conversation about it, it is important that you are both on the same level. You never know, you may have both been having the same thoughts. Try talking to them outside of the bedroom about any of your other desires. Whether you want to be tied up, blindfolded or spanked but always make sure you also ask them if they have any fantasies too. Ask lots of questions and treat it as a warm up to the real thing, have an open conversation about what you want so that they don’t come across any surprises you might give. Be sure to check out our blog post on How to talk to your partner about your unusual kink for more details on this.

Safety Measures
It is important, even at this early stage to talk about safe words and boundaries you may or may not have. Get a safe word you both agree on, it should be something unmistakable like ‘pineapple’ not ‘kiss’ which could easily be misheard for ‘miss’ or ‘this’. Once you’ve both agreed you’re keen to explore a little further, you can move onto the enjoyable part. Introducing it into your sex life. . Here are a few things that can get you started:

Blindfolds
Blindfolds are a great way to get into bondage with your partner. They can provide a fantastic opportunity to experiment with light sensory deprivation. A thrilling experience within a BDSM scenario! A blindfold is easy to use and can be quickly removed if play gets a little bit too intense. It’s more than likely that you already own one, whether it be a sleeping mask or a tie, even a piece of material can work. In general, it works best to get a specific bondage blindfold. They’re designed for the right purpose and tend to be more durable. The Purple Velvet Blindfold with Elastic Strap is a great beginners blindfold. The velvet provides soft and comfortable padding whilst the elastic provides a great fitting. A great addition to the bedroom so you can focus on exploring intimacy!

The best time to start using blindfolds is during oral, try having one of you go down on the other. The loss of sight for one of you will heighten other senses so there will be more sensations without either one of you doing too much different. Blindfolding is great because it can easily work on both of you and it never needs anything too expensive.

Restraints
Contrary to popular opinions, handcuffs don’t need to be made from metal with a chain in between. They can be soft and fluffy too! There are many restraints Honour Clothing provide, one great way for starting out is our Black Plush Fluffy Cuffs.
Restraining someone doesn’t have to be painful or uncomfortable as some may think, not allowing your body to move means it learns to just be still which is where you become more focused on connecting with the pleasure sensations rather than the restrictions. A good restriction to start with is tying wrists together, or tying them to your bed frames, restricting your hand movements is a good place to start because it is the part of the body we associate with touch the most; by restraining hands, we learn to feel with other parts of our body.

BDSM Kits
After you’ve experimented a little bit with the lighter side of Bondage you can then look to move forward. Again it is important you are both on the same page but a kit is a great place to buy some new toys to play with as well as upgrade what you already have. By buying a kit you can get a variety of items, some familiar some unfamiliar, the best part is that when buying a kit, items tend to be a less expensive than what they would be on their own. The Subservient Starter Set is a great one for beginners as it comes with a variety of items used for many different types of BDSM. As you then become more familiar with each item you can develop a personal preference and upgrade your kit based on them.



Looking the part:
It is not uncommon that most bondage play leads to some sort of outfit, whether it be a fancy set of underwear or a full PVC catsuit, there’s no harm in feeling a little extra sexy when getting your kink on, it’s all about creating fantasies.

This is a great time to discuss with your partner about what they would like to see you in, whether they prefer lace or frills, wet look or latex, corset or dress up. By getting their thoughts, you can be sure to satisfy their sexual fantasies as well as feeling sexy. Dressing up is also a great way to experiment with toys. Becoming a sexy secretary and gagging your partner so that your boss doesn’t hear is just one way to get your bondage kit involved in your roleplaying. Role-playing to be someone else can make it more comfortable for both people to get into the scenarios and using the kit, as it’s not ‘you’ using it, it is your character.

Summary
In a survey by the Archive of Sexual Behaviour, nearly 87% of females involved enjoy bondage play so really, you’re just catching up to an already well-loved ideal. When you’re ready there are even more areas of BDSM to explore, check out our other blog posts on our HNRX Bondage restraint system, Self Bondage, and Shibari rope. Write us a comment below to let us know how successful your new adventures have been!
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